WHO AM I?
Hello, I am Elizabeth Dhokia and I would love to be your life coach.
But why choose me? I have absolutely taken the scenic route through life so far. I have not lived a conventional life by any means, and so I have quite a wide range of life experience.
Honestly, it feels like my meandering path through life led me to be here. It feels absolutely aligned that I do this coaching work. It is something I feel very natural doing.
I have natural empathy, I am kind, and yet I have the courage to challenge when necessary.
I went through the coaching academy training many moons ago in my twenties, but self-doubt and imposter syndrome told me I was too young to be a life coach. After all, what does a 25 year old know about life to be telling other people how to live theirs?! I continued to tell myself similar stories for many years after in a bid to keep myself small and keep myself safe. Have you ever done that? Told yourself you can’t do something yet until you have done or achieved x, y, z…?
The thing is when it came to big bold moves like uprooting my life to travel on my own around Asia, no problem. But the things that I really cared about, the things that really personal, I either self-sabotaged or avoided.
And so, I have lived many lives so far. I have been to three universities, and have two degrees including an MSc. I carried out anthropological research in Laos specialising in tourism and poverty alleviation. My Masters degree was the research year part of a PhD funding programme. The plan was to continue my work in Southeast Asia. But then I damaged my back and pretty much spent a year lying flat on my back with just my laptop for company.
It was during that time that I discovered the world of blogging. Back then it was a wonderful outlet and connection with the outside world. I met an amazing community of creative people. And at some point blogging became a career and led to freelance work. I inadvertently learned skills in all things digital, marketing, and business. I worked on amazing projects, I organised and hosted events. I was hired by corporate businesses to train staff on social media and marketing. I was a public speaker invited to conferences and workshops to speak on creativity, entrepreneurship, digital marketing, and I was even hired by a global social media network to represent them in the UK. I travelled all over the country, and the world. It was all go go go and I was thrilled to be getting paid to do such exciting work.
But eventually I hit burn out. I started to have random and very severe panic attacks in public places. It turned out I had developed a panic disorder. It was a scary and upsetting time. My hair had been falling out. I wasn’t sleeping. And my heart felt like it was constantly racing. My body quite literally forced me to stop and take stock. I had been working crazy hours and been pulled in all directions. I was doing work that was not fulfilling for me and operating on automatic. I wasn’t doing work that aligned with my values.
When I took time to do some deep work, do the unravelling, take an honest look at where I was in my life, it was totally off. I was letting comparison and the noise of others dictate and influence the work I did. It just did not feel right. The result was a series of unfortunate events that seem like signs trying to tell me to reconfigure.
And so, I got back to basics. I worked on the unravelling. I had medication and long-term therapy and thankfully healed from the panic disorder. And I began to learn coping strategies for anxiety. I started to work intentionally on my true self, listening to my inner voice, sifting through what was me and what was the noise of the outer world, of others.
I remembered my strengths and talents. I followed my intuition. And even when it felt uncomfortable I pushed through, rooted in my mission statement, knowing my purpose.
As a result I launched my podcast The Good Life Unravelled. As somebody who previously had an aversion to speaking to people on the phone, I was now calling people I did not know to interview them. It was way beyond my comfort zone, but ultimately so uplifting and rewarding. The result is a podcast that brings together a diverse range of voices to discuss around the topic of wellness, wellbeing, and self-care. It helps to inspire and empower listeners to make small changes to their lives for the better. It is a podcast that has even been shortlisted for a creative impact podcast award.
For the past couple of years I have been back in touch with my true self. The one who worked from a place of knowing and understanding. Who wanted to help others. Who constantly learned and disseminated information. Who worked from a place of kindness and sharing. A person who knows their values and stayed rooted in them.
And so here we are, I am focused on creating and holding space for people who need help and ideas on how to find clarity on what truly matters to them, to figure out what a good life means to them, to find a path that is rooted in their core values and flows with ease. I continue to work on the podcast, I am researching and writing my first book, and I am now stepping into my role as a coach.
It would be an honour to work with you.