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Why I Believe in the Power of Change

In December last year we handed in our notice on the house we rented and I handed my notice in on my temp job. A month or so before the boyf had got a new job based outside of town. Our house was insanely cold and in poor condition. And the area we lived in was rather undesirable. We were unhappy. No-one wants to be unhappy, so why stay unhappy? The only way to deal with this unhappy state was to change. Something had to change. And I am a firm believer in the power of change.

With only a couple of weeks until Christmas and then New Year’s Eve and then my birthday we had set ourselves up for quite a challenge to find somewhere to live. The fact is we totally did not have any time to really look for a new place and when moving day finally came we had to pack all of our belongings up into storage and check into my Mum’s house for a few weeks. To many a grown adult the thought of moving back in with their parents might fill them with horror. But I think I am pretty lucky to get on well with my family and we know it’s only a temporary measure. The point is that we are making a change and a change is a positive thing.

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Too often I hear of friends or family or acquaintances who are unhappy with their life or their current situation. Too often I see them stay in exactly the same situation. Too often I hear them put up obstacles and make up arbitrary reasons for staying in the same situation that makes them so unhappy. But I just cannot relate. I am not one to put up with a situation if it is not working. In my mind, if something doesn’t work you either fix it or you move on. We knew we couldn’t fix the house or the town we were living in so we moved on.

I admit it takes a bit of courage to make drastic life changes like this. And I won’t pretend that it hasn’t been incredibly stressful. But I just believe in change. Life is too short to be unhappy.

I did something similar a few years back. I was in a pretty much dead end job working in London. I loved London. I lived in a flat with my best friend and I loved our little flat. I loved my best friend. But I was unhappy. I’d lost my way a little bit and a health scare forced me to sit up and make a drastic decision. With hardly any money to my name I quit my job, moved out of my flat and boarded a flight to Bangkok. I needed a break and a chance to see the world. I need to challenge myself, scare myself and learn to survive. The change was exactly what I needed and when I came back to the UK I had a new set of challenges in mind. Ever since then I have consistently altered my path when life guided me that way. I do believe that my life is the better for it and I feel very fortunate.

Sure, I’m not a super-successful career woman nor do I have a family, mortgage or car of my own. But I am relatively happy and my life is constantly moving forward and I am adamant that everything will always get better.

So I believe in change because that is what my instincts tell me and they have never been wrong. Sometimes it means putting myself into slightly awkward situations along the way or it means I might be a little short on the pennies – these sacrifices are sometimes necessary. I believe that life is too short to be unhappy. I believe that change can be healthy, inspiring and useful. But most of all, I think change is often the kick up the backside you need to make things better.

What is the most drastic life change you have made?

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  1. Totally with you on this one! Just over 4 years ago I was what I guess you’d term a ‘successful career woman’ working in an office, travelling the country working on multimillion pound projects, earning quite a lot of money, about to buy a sports car and my own swanky flat.

    I was miserable. Everyone (including my boss!) could see it but me, untill eventually I had a complete quarter life crisis, ended up quiting my job and re trained as a stylist. Alongside styling I started writing a little blog.

    4 years later I earn next to nothing, but I’m still styling, I’m still writing a blog that’s becoming increasingly successful little by little, I got that swanky flat but instead of on my own it’s with my lovely boyfriend, and no we don’t own it, and no, I don’t have a sports car, but you know what? I’m so much happier.

    Making the change at the time was terifying, but the best thing I ever did, so I applaud you, and change (and this must be the longest comment ever, oops!)

      1. Aw, thanks! It’s a thrifty but fabulous life at the moment, but yes, I am loving it! Am totally stalking your instagram by the way and your life is looking pretty fabulous too!

  2. Ace post. 2013 will be made of good things for you guys, I’m sure! The biggest change for me was leaving a stressful job working at a newspaper. I worked there for 6 years and was coming out with a decent wage and I made my parents proud. On paper, it was a great job and I was heading in the right direction career wise. But I didn’t feel like myself there, I dreaded going into work, I disliked most of the people and I made myself poorly to the point I was signed off work for months. I eventually figured out I had to make a change and leave. I’ve never looked back. I left Leeds at the same time and moved to Hebden Bridge and hoped to find a new life for myself and Ste. I’ve never been as happy as I am right now. I earn half of what I used to but I feel free, you can’t put a price on that. Plus, I’m healthy. I haven’t had a panic attack in so long, when I used to have them daily. I’ve got a long way to go, as I do want more pennies so we’re more financially secure and make more plans but without change who knows where I’d be today? I know for sure I wouldn’t be the real me. Sorry for long comment! xxx

    1. Never apologise for a long comment. They are totally the best comments.

      I am happy that you are happy. Your story is proof of just how important big scary changes are and how they work out right in the end.
      x

  3. Good on you, Liz. I am not so good at taking risks, and living on the seat of my pants, although I do subscribe to Carpe Diem. I wish you and boyf all the best with our exciting new life.

  4. Three years ago I quit my Good Job. I was earning a decent wage and living in the beautiful city of Oxford but I wasn’t happy. With the support of my husband we relocated to Hereford so I could go back to uni and study Contemporary Applied Arts. He had to take a big pay cut and a step down in his own career to support me but thankfully while we have been here he has been able to realise his own dream of training to become a photography lecturer, all of which we could never have done if we’d stayed where we were. I have learnt so much in the last 2 and half years about myself and about my priorities it is crazy. I am so pleased I made the jump, it was terrifying but so very very worth it.

    1. Do you know my brother, Alex? He’s at Hereford at the moment too studying Blacksmithing. His girlf, Emma is on your course I think. 🙂

      P.S. Hoorah for both you and your husband chasing the dream!

  5. wow, this is SO apt for me right now. I am literally about to make a big change, as I have been feeling exactly what you’ve described, and finally I feel like my stars are aligned to make that change. I think sometimes you have to wait for the right time, not in a ‘procrastinating, might never do it’ way, but sometimes there needs to be certain things in your favour to make it work. Sorry if this all sounds cryptic but in a few weeks I will blog about it all myself! I’m so excited and know 2013 is going to be ‘the year’!
    thanks for an inspiring post Elizabeth
    xxxx

    1. Totally agree with both of you. I think sometimes when you “put it out there” for change to happen though things start aligning. 9 years ago I was desperate to leave South Africa and move to London to see the world. Shortly after family friends offered me a ticket to come overseas. When I was miserable in another job and in the process of studying to make a career change the 2008 financial crisis hit. I was able to take voluntary redundancy and concentrate on finishing my undergrad. I am not saying the universe makes things happen but that your own ability to grab opportunities emerges. I look forward to seeing what great things come for both of you in 2013.

  6. This post makes me further realize why I hate change and strive not to change anything–ever. The stress, the pinching pennies, etc. However, to be fair, my current situation doesn’t really need changing. I am happy where I am. But, anytime the thought of change comes up I get super stressed and have a huge sigh of relief when it turns out things don’t have to change!

    I know I can’t stay in the same place forever, so someday I will need to make a big life change. Hope I can handle it as well as you. 🙂

    1. I don’t think I necessarily handle stress any better than the next person. I still get the stress, anxiety, tears and frustration. I just do it anyway, in spite of and because of those feelings. It always gets better in the end.

  7. I’ve said before how brave and inspiring you are 🙂 To me too it’s crazy that people just put up with their jobs and lives when they’re unhappy, how will you stop being unhappy if you don’t change anything, it doesn’t magically happen. I quit my job, I was set to start another one, I took it just to get out of my old one which I hated. I didn’t take the job, I have to mind my pennies and can’t do the things I used to do; I have a mortgage and a car, I have bills to pay, it’s extremely scary but amazing. I get by on freelance work, tempting a few days a week at an old job and have time to relaunch my little jewellery business and be creative. I’m poor bit happy (and eat beans for dinner, a lot)

    Abbi x

    1. Poor but happy is great, because I’m pretty sure you won’t stay poor for long and that doing what you love will bring abundance. 🙂
      x

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  9. Good on you! It sounds like you’ve made so many scary decisions but that they were right for you. i don’t think I’ve ever done anything so brave, but buying a house when we were 21 seems a little crazy looking back. Its a good job it worked out well in the end!

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