How to choose a coach, for the ‘too long, didn’t read’ crowd the simple answer is this – choose somebody you resonate with. It’s a simple as that.
But now for the explanation, because what does resonating really mean. What does it look like? How do we know who we resonate with? And how do we find them?
The first clue that you resonate with a potential coach is that they speak your language. You ideal coach will speak the same way as you. They will talk about subjects that makes sense, that make something click, that just feel right.
When you resonate with a coach it will feel easy. You want a coach that is approachable for you. Somebody you can open up to. You want a coach that will understand you. You want a coach that gets you.
The most important decision-maker however is your intuition. Take a moment to sit with yourself and consider the person you want to hire as a coach. What does your intuition say? Sometimes our intuition is in our heart, maybe it’s a gut feeling. Whatever it is, trust it.
Our mind can take on lots of other factors in a decision-making process. Sometimes our ego will pipe up and get in the way. But this does not always serve us best. If you choose a coach through an ego-based decision you might find you’ve picked a somebody for the wrong reasons. Maybe they promised you’d make thousands of pounds in no time and you ego ran with it. Now, there is nothing wrong with choosing a money mindset coach, they can help you do some great work. But choose the coach for the person they are rather than just the money transformation they promise. You will get so much more out of an experience if you resonate with your coach.
And it’s for this reason that I don’t feel competitive at all in the coaching space. There are plenty of other coaches that my potential clients might choose to work with. I don’t believe there is any need in being competitive or jealous. I know what I have to offer, and I am grounded in my own values and abilities. I trust that the right clients will want to work with me. I am not interested in trying to hustle and convince everyone to work with me, because I know from experience that this just won’t be beneficial to anyone involved. If I am not the right fit for somebody I am more than happy to recommend and point them in the direction in a number of coaches that might work best for them.
I believe in abundance and space for all. Everyone has something of value to share and bring to the world. Likewise with coaches. There will be the right coach for all of us. So don’t be afraid to shop around, read through coaches websites, check their testimonials, and even start jumping on some clarity calls with a few that spark your interest. Trust your intuition and hire the right coach for you.
Likewise, the same can be said for all kinds of professionals you work with in a personal way.
For me, I went through several therapists and counsellors before I found the right one. For a little while it was a bit disheartening as I wanted help so badly. I even started to think that maybe I was the problem. Maybe I couldn’t be helped. But the problem wasn’t always the professional that I had met with, rather, it was all about finding the right therapist that I resonated with it. Eventually when I found my therapist I spent over a year working with her weekly and it transformed my life.
So don’t be disheartened if you have yet to find your people. They are out there.
Keep looking, and trust your intuition. Choose a coach that you resonate with. And be open and willing to engage in the process. Coaching can be truly transformative if you find the right person to work with.