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I have always wanted to help people. ⁠⠀ ⁠⠀

I have always wanted to help people. ⁠⠀
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- When I was in 10 years old I spent all night creating a giant treasure map on lots of paper stuck together, constructed a donation box, and set up a fundraiser in my classroom to raise money for Comic Relief, using my own pocket money to buy prizes (bags of 10p mix-ups) for the winners. All without any teacher asking.⁠⠀
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- At 18 I organised a talent showcase at college to raise money for an MS charity. ⁠⠀
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- When I was 20 I dropped out of uni to start a whole new degree in Anthropology so I could learn more about people and how best to help them.⁠⠀
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- At 22 I organised an entire week of campaigning and fundraising events for International Women's Week, raising £2000 for my local women's refuge. They took the women to a West End Show, it was one of the highlights of the year for them.⁠⠀
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- I did the same the following year.⁠⠀
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- Aged 24 years old I volunteered for three months at a cancer charity's head office in projects. ⁠⠀
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- When I was 26 I did a MSc in development and worked with Hmong women in Laos to look at tourism as a tool for poverty alleviation.⁠⠀
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- At 28 I helped dig a gravity-fed water system to a village of cocoa farmers in Dominican Republic.⁠⠀
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- In my 30s I have been donating a percentage of all my events and courses to mental health charities. ⁠⠀
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My back injury and poor mental health this past decade has made serving others take a back seat and it bothers me.⁠⠀
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I want the work that I do to be beneficial, to change people's lives for the better, to make a difference in the world. ⁠⠀
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I share all of this to show that fundraising, campaigning, and advocacy have been a part of who I am since I was a child. ⁠⠀
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As my health improves and my capabilities allow it, I want the work I do to make a difference. ⁠⠀
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As this next chapter of my work begins I will be weaving in several different ways to do just that. I'll share more soon once I have it set up.⁠⠀
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I guess sharing it here makes it an accountability thing. And to say that anything we can do can help, no matter how big or small, can change the world.
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What can small differences can you make in the world today?⁠⠀
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Belief is the most accessible self-built resource

Belief is the most accessible self-built resource we have.⁠⠀
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This an almost exact quote from the interview with @Holland_Otik on The Good Life Unravelled podcast episode that came out today.⁠⠀
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We had a wide-ranging discussion about belief systems and the power of creating your own rituals. ⁠⠀
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This idea that belief is a resource we can create for ourselves to self-soothe, create comfort, is incredibly empowering. ⁠⠀
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As Holland said, what is personal spirituality if it is not autonomy?⁠⠀
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We chatted about how a lot of our autonomy has been removed from us and repackaged and sold back to us. A lot of this has stemmed from our disconnection with the natural world, but also the societal structure of capitalism.⁠⠀
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Holland shares that making things is a crucial part of her spiritual practice, it's where she finds meaning.⁠⠀
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I find this idea incredibly profound and it's something I am thinking through at the moment. ⁠⠀
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Belief can mean different things for each of us, and yet whatever that belief is, it's incredibly powerful.⁠⠀
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Belief could be religious, or it could be personal spirituality. Belief can also be something we have about ourselves, about others. ⁠⠀
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Whatever the beliefs we hold are, they are meaningful to us. So if you are feeling a bit out of sorts, have a think about what you believe - spiritual or personal? How can it centre you, ground you in this moment? How can it empower you in a positive way?⁠⠀
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At a time when it might feel like our personal resources are depleted, belief is something you can nurture and grow. ⁠⠀
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Question: what is your chosen belief system? ⁠Is it organised? Or maybe something personal to you? Share your thoughts if you feel called to.
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#goodlifeunravelled #wordswordswords #beliefsystem #selfdiscover

Hello! Thought it was time to re-introduce myself.

Hello! Thought it was time to re-introduce myself.⠀
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I'm Elizabeth, and I am a writer, podcaster and unravelling coach. ⠀
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My podcast 'The Good Life Unravelled' aims to bring a diverse range of voices together around the wellness conversation. I am curious about what it means to live a good life. And I believe that having an open mind to learning is the key to living the best life. I hope that my podcast inspires and empowers you to make small changes to your life for the better. ⠀
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I love chatting with all kinds of interesting people for the interviews. Doing the podcast was totally out of my comfort zone but it has transformed my life, giving me the confidence to pursue my passions and purpose.⠀
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▽ 11 fun facts about me ▽⠀
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1. I started my first blog in 2008 when I went travelling around Asia on my own. But the first time I went travelling solo, in 2003, I used to write email dispatches to family and friends from cramped internet cafes around Europe. ⠀
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2. I met my husband in a hostel in Thailand. It's a great story, and very romantic.⠀
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3. My two rescue cats are my babies. They're called Phoenix and Bear, and they make me laugh every day. I also have about 20 alternative names for each of them. ⠀
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4. I don't like stressful tv shows, not interested in horror, crime, or thrillers. I like my viewing to be lighthearted or funny. ⠀
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5. I have had 4 different mental illnesses over my lifetime - depression, anxiety, panic disorder, and agoraphobia. ⠀
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6. My superpower is my intuition. ⠀
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7. My friend told me I make the best roast dinner, now I want to make it all the time for everyone.⠀
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8. I have been called quirky in the past, but I think this is just because I've not been great at following the crowd, or trends, or the norm. ⠀
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9. My hobbies are photography, gardening, and cooking.⠀
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10. I don't do small talk, I do meaningful. In the past I was told I was 'too deep' and took it to heart. Now I know I wasn't around my people.⠀
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11. I have been able to read tarot cards since I was 13 and I I think astrology is so useful.⠀
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💫 Tell me about you! Do we have anything in common?

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Do you feel a bit discombobulated when working fro

Do you feel a bit discombobulated when working from home during this pandemic?⁠
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The lines are blurred between work and home. We find it hard to switch off.⁠
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Adding a transition activity to your daily routine helps your mind and body adjust.⁠
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We need to create space between work and home life. We need to give our brain to process. We need our nervous system to switch gears. ⁠
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If you ever feel agitated and unable to switch off, this might be why. Your mind and body are still trying to move over to a different space.⁠
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🙏🏻 So what is a transitional activity?⁠
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The key is to do something active. Something that moves your body. It's that change of state that helps with the transition. It allows you to enter the home space, even if you are still in the same place physically, with a different mindset and energy level.⁠
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➡️ SWIPE the slides to read more.⁠
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🎧 This was the topic on Monday's episode of The Good Life Unravelled. ⁠
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🌟 What activity helps you switch from work to home made when working from home?⁠
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Unravelling coaching is launching soon and I am in

Unravelling coaching is launching soon and I am inviting you to join my waitlist to be the first to know when the coaching spots open. There will be a limited number of slots available for this first round. And if you join my waitlist there is absolutely no obligation, you will just be the first to know when the coaching programme opens. ⁠⠀
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> Drop me your email at elizabethdhokia.com/coaching <⁠⠀
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I am utterly thrilled with how well the beta testing stage of the coaching programme went. I loved watching my clients work through their blocks, challenge their self-limiting beliefs, and formulate new plans for the future. ⁠⠀
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I was fortunate enough to be coaching a group of amazing, smart, and accomplished women for these past few months, which made it an absolute joy for me to step into my role as their coach.⁠⠀
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Holding space, listening, gently challenging, guiding, and cheerleading my clients feels like a job I was meant to do. The results have been brilliant. ⁠⠀
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Unravelling coaching is a one-to-one programme that will now run over 3 months, with fortnightly calls and unlimited email and Voxer support throughout. ⁠⠀
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I work as a dynamic intuitive coach, creating an approach to suit each client. Depending on where you are at, I will adapt and offer support in a way that will help you dig deep and figure out what you need to find.⁠⠀
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If you are feeling a bit stuck, in a rut, lacking focus or direction... or perhaps you are in a cycle of comparing yourself to others... maybe fear is holding you back from taking the next step... coaching may be a great option for you. ⁠⠀
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If you resonate with any of this or are curious about what I have to offer. Pop your email on the coaching page and I'll let you know all the details soon.⁠⠀
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> elizabethdhokia.com/coaching⁠ <⁠⠀
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I can't wait to work with some of you! ⁠⠀
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🙏🏻 You don’t need more self-discipline, yo

🙏🏻 You don’t need more self-discipline, you need more self-love. ⁠
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☁️ Pursuing goals from a place of punishment or reward will eventually lead to burn out. ⁠
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🌼 It's just not sustainable to keep hustling, grinding, pushing on without recognising your emotional wellbeing. It’s exhausting. ⁠
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💫 When you work from a place of self-love you can still achieve your goals, but you take steps that is both nourishing and honouring your self alongside moving you forwards.⁠
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🌊 Self-love is a rippling act. Once you operate from loving yourself first and foremost, that energy spreads to other people, your work, and how you show up in the world. ⁠
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🌿 Self-love is appreciating your true self. Listening to your true self. And trusting your true self.⁠
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⚡️ What does self-love mean to you?

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#selflove #motivation #selfcompassion #selfmastery #selflovequotes

I go quiet on social media when I retreat into my

I go quiet on social media when I retreat into my mind. I find myself seeking quiet and solitude. Often this is when I need my brain to create, visualise, plan, and implement.⠀
Sometimes it is when I'm juggling lots of different projects (because I've never been known for sticking to just one thing at a time). ⠀
And other times its during moments of sadness, depression, anxiety, overwhelm, or any emotion that requires processing.⠀
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It was World Mental Health Day a few days ago and it was so reassuring to see so many people sharing their stories on social media. ⠀
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Rather than just one day though I would like to see action, progress, and change happen throughout the year. I want to see governments invest in mental health support services. I want to see companies prioritise and support their employees mental health. I want to see the media adequately represent ALL mental illnesses in honest, sensitive, and helpful ways. I want to see the general public talk about mental health in a matter of fact and accepting way. I want mental illness to be taken as seriously as physical illness (although pretty much linked aren't they?). I want GPs to have proper training to deal effectively with patients presenting mental illness symptoms - handing them a leaflet to call a number is not helpful. I want the every day person to recognise and accept that there is a good chance they might suffer with a mental illness one day and learn some of the warning signs of the most common ones. I want our society to be rid of the stigma that mental illness is weak or a failing. I want mental illness to be normalised so then we can get on with supporting, treating, or curing whoever needs it with ease, accessibility, and kindness.⠀
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If you are struggling with a mental illness or poor mental health right now, I see you and you are not alone. ⠀
If you can find the strength to reach out to professionals for support please do. ⠀
If you are currently mentally ok I would encourage to reflect on where you stand in terms of judgement of those with poor mental health. Consider the language you use. Think about ways you can support and use your power. ⠀
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You are not alone. Together we are strong.

Monday motivation - something to inspire your week

Monday motivation - something to inspire your week:⁠⠀
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> Celebrate the small joys in the everyday⁠⠀
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> Take one action that moves you towards your goal⁠⠀
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> Be nice to yourself⁠⠀
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> Connect with somebody new⁠⠀
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> Have a good stretch⁠⠀
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> Know your feelings are valid⁠⠀
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> Avoid gossip⁠⠀
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> Find hope⁠⠀
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> Turn off your screen⁠⠀
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Have a great week. I hope you get something wonderful from it.

Imposter syndrome is just one voice in your mind.

Imposter syndrome is just one voice in your mind. It’s not the whole truth. You are worthy and you have lots of value to offer the world.

Disrupting imposter syndrome is an ongoing practice that many of us are working on.

Listen your true inner voice, the one that is wise and calm and true. Allow that to be the louder voice in your mind.

I’m going to resurrect @rosalilium as a place to

I’m going to resurrect @rosalilium as a place to write my personal stories. Small moments that matter. Something more raw and personal. Much like the old days of blogging, over 10 years ago. It’s one of those ‘writing for me’ spaces and whether anyone reads it or not doesn’t matter. It’s a place for me to collect those stories. It’s a place where I can express and flow and let go. I hope it becomes something beautiful.

All this has been in my mind for a long time but listening back to my interview with @storisse last week on The Good Life Unravelled podcast inspired to actually give it a go.

The first story will be a moment including this view. I’ll write and share it tonight.

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#GoodLifeUnravelled #rosalilium

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